Matt:Boys can like boys. I just an't marry him because boys can't marry boys.
Me:Yeah they can. You can marry whoever you want.
Josie:YEAH my tia has a wife so now I have a titi and a auntie.
Matt:Okay. Then maybe I'll marry him.
Dave:(from across the room) No you can't you're seven.
(Age was apparently the only foreseeable problem anyone of my elementary schoolers could see with gay marriage. I almost cried out of happiness. Later, when I was asked if boys could kiss anyone they wanted, I replied "only if they want to kiss you back." And Josie responded "Yeah! Your body your life.")
We’ve had a number of comments from guys who’ve in essence said in here that “but I don’t mean any harm by it, and I think it’s a shame that I have to curtail my behavior as a result.”
We do too. But you know what a much more effective way to make things right would be, rather than nagging women to cut the nice guys some slack? Going after the guys you see NOT being nice. If you see a guy cat calling a woman, tell him he’s being a dick. If one of your friends gets one of those “rape joke” t-shirts, tell him he’s being a dick. If you see a guy try to pick a girl up and she looks uncomfortable and blows him off, and he turns to you all butthurt and says “women, huh?” Tell him that well, obviously she didn’t want to talk to anyone and he just ignored her, so he was being a dick.
If you think about it, those guys are the ones who are ruining it for you, after all. Tell them that. They’re the ones ruining it for you.